Life experience

Some life experiences.

在法国的一些米其林三星就餐时，服务员通常会拿上两份菜单，标有价钱的一份是男士的，没标价钱的是女士的。这样做主要是为了女士能够不受价格影响选择自己喜欢的菜肴，而买单的事情则交给男士就好。

在知乎上，有一个关注度很高的提问：“初次跟女生吃牛排时，女生对服务员说要八分熟，应该说些什么来化解尴尬？”题主之所以说尴尬是因为牛排一般没有偶数熟的，他大概觉得在服务员面前，女生这么说很丢面子。下面的回复几乎没有一条是认真帮助题主解答问题，多是在讽刺题主在此时表现出来的好面子和低情商。一条获得了一万四千个赞同的回答是：“我也要八分熟的。”高情商和低情商的对比如此清晰。

5 mistakes ruining your focus

The quality of my life is directly proportional to my ability to focus.

5 Mistakes:

1. Not having a plan
   1. need to make a plan.
2. Ignoring how you feel.
3. You’re switching between too many tasks
   1. Do one thing at a time.
   2. Turn off notifications.
4. You’re not taking breaks
   1. Set time intentionally
      1. Block out time for a specific task and do not deviate from it during that time.
   2. Work until focus drops
      1. Work on a specific task with full focus until you start getting distracted.
      2. The thing that you do during the break should not create new obligations.
5. You’re not hitting the golden trio(Diet, Exercise and sleep)
   1. There is no such thing as a loser who wakes up at 5 AM and does a workout.

Question that you can ask yourself:

1. Do you have a plan?
2. What emotion am I avoiding?
   1. Boredom
   2. Anxiety(fear)
   3. Self-Doubt(fear)
3. What would this look like if it were fun?
   • Play
   • Power
   • People

• The opposite of distraction is traction.
  • You have to have a plan.
• What would this look like if it were fun?
  • Play
  • Power
  • People

5 Small changes to supercharge your focus

1. The ready to resume plan.
2. The 40 Hz tactic(music).
3. The 10-minute Declutter.
4. The 90-20 Rule.
   1. For every 90 minutes of work, consider taking a 15-30 minute break.
5. The color coding hack.
   1. The opposite of distraction is traction.

7 Life lessons I wash I knew sooner

1. The value of headspace
2. The power of mornings
3. Define your constraints
4. The last man standing
5. Avoid optimising away the fun
6. Dream moments
7. Journey over destination

1. The value of headspace

1. Focusing on one thing
2. Having a balanced liffe
3. Not burning out

• You can have anything you want. But not everthing you want.

2. The power of mornings

• Eat the frog first.

3. Define your constraints

• Draw constraints around their life and optimise their work within that.

4. The last man standing

• The last man standing is often the winner.
• The only thing that will make you fail is quitting. Just keep on going.
• Keep playing the game.
• Being in the game.

5. Avoid optimising away the fun

• Left unckecked, players will optimise the fun out of the game they are playing.
• Be wary of optimising the fun out of what you are doing.

7. Journey over destination

• There is no achievement you can achieve, that will make you any happier than you are right now.
• Focus on enjoying the journey.

Change your life by journalling - 10 powerful questions

1. What would you do if money were no object?
2. What would you like people to say at your funeral?
3. If I repeat this week’s actions for 10 years, where does it lead, and is that where I want to be?
4. What activities in the last 2 weeks have energized and drained me?
5. How is your wheel of life?
6. What is your Odyssey Plan?
7. What is the goal and what is the bottleneck?
8. Which goal will have the greatest positive impact on your life?
9. Do you work for your business or does it work for you?
10. If you know you’d die in 2 years, how would you spend your time?

What would you do if money were no object?

The talent service prompt:

Imagine a world where you have all the money and all the time. How would you use your talents and skills to serve others?

What would you like people to say at your funeral?

• Family
• Friends
• Coworkers
• People impacted by your work

No one cares about your performance. They care about how you make them feel.

What activities in the last 2 weeks have energized and drained me?

Maximising Energy

How do I do more of the things that energise me and less of the things that drain me.

Convert Drainers

Find a way to convert things that are currently draining to a source of energy.

How is your wheel of life?

What is your Odyssey Plan?

The Current Path

Write out, in detail, what your life would look like 5 years from now if you continued down your current path.

The Alternative Path

Write out, in detail, what your life would look like 5 years from now if you took a completely different path.

The Radical Path

Write out, in detail, what your life would look like 5 years from now if money and social obligations, and what people would think, were completely irrelevant.

You have got way more control and options available than you might think.

What is the goal and what is the bottleneck?

Example:

5 Actionable ways to become more self-disciplined

**Discipline: **

Getting yourself to do something that you don’t feel like doing.

• Make the work feel good.
• When something feels good and enjoyable, you don’t need to rely on discipline.

1. Figure out what your main thing is.
2. Focus on progress not immediate success.
3. Appreciate the tension between higher and lower self.
4. Balence structure with flexibility.
5. Stick don’t switch.

Figure out what your main thing is

• If a man knows not to which port he sails, no wind is favourable.
• Do fewer things and obsess over quality.
• Figure out your essentials and eliminate the rest.
• What are the 3-4 goals that will most positively impact my life this year?
• If I only had 2 hours a week to do all of my work, what would I do in that time?

Focus on progress not immediate success

Fogg Behaviour model: B=MAP Model

• What would the smallest and easiest version of this look like?

Appreciate the tension between higher and lower self

• Get these characters to talk to each other.
• Hear and accept what they have to say.

How to 10x your income - The 4 ladders of wealth

1. Ladder 1: Time for money.
2. Ladder 2 : Your own service business.
3. Ladder 3 : Productized services.
4. Ladder 4 : Selling products.

Ladder 1: Time for money

1. Hourly job working for a company.
2. Salary working for a company.

Ladder 2 : Your own service business

1. Hourly work for clients.
   1. Finding clients who will actually buy your service.
   2. Creating proposals for those clients and pitching for work.
   3. Knowing how to price your service.
2. Charging by the project.
3. Managing a team to do service work.

Ladder 3 : Productized services

1. Fixed scope for a fixed price.
2. Selling consulting packages.
3. Recurring services provided by employees.
4. Recurring productized services.
   1. Know how to write sales copy that can make a sale without direct customer interaction.
   2. Learn to design sales pages or hire experts for sales and landing pages.
   3. Understand online payment processing and develop standardised systems for consistent service quality.

Ladder 4 : Selling products

1. Digital products(ebooks, courses, downloadables).
2. Products sold in an existing ecosystem.
3. Physical products & ecommerce.
4. Subscription software launched with consulting services.
5. SaaS(Software as a Service).
6. Marketplaces & Social Networks.